“When your friend only calls you to share news of the nose-rubbing variety.”
I will admit, I’m prone to exaggeration but that’s how I feel with her. There’s an unspoken underlying current of competition between us and one cannot fully savour good news until sharing boasting to the other one. I’m not the only one who has a friend like this and I am just as guilty as her when it comes to competitive behaviour. Probably worse, as I’m a sore winner and a bigger sore loser. Right now she’s in the lead (has been since this summer when she got married) and I’ve been absolutely dreading the moment she calls me up to announce her pregnancy because I’m nowhere near that. Not pregnant, not married, not even engaged to be married. Part consciously and part subconsciously, I overeat every time I think about that moment. Doesn’t happen often but it’s usually followed by some sort of eating binge when it does. Yesterday, she text-messaged me to find out if we can get together and immediately my heart sank. When she seeks my company, it’s to spend time with me and also to share news of the nose-rubbing variety. Rarely does one go without the other. I can only assume that the news this time is pregnancy. Anyway, I realized yesterday that I was eating my emotions every time this happened. I let myself feel bad last night but resolved to break free from this unhealthy habit of competing with her. I can’t speak for her but I will no longer compete with her or anyone for that matter. My time will come when I’m good and ready and nothing I do will accelerate that. I have to come to terms with that for the sake of my sanity and learn to be patient.
Today, I woke up in a wonderful mood, hit the gym first thing in the morning and had an awesome workout. I’m reclaiming my life: no more comparing, no more competing, just focusing on myself and enjoying each day as it comes.